Murray Bowen in his systems theory work shared that our unconscious emotional life and level of SELF is inherited.   There are

Whitney Houston, Michelle Obama and the Shadow

When people are big – saying No is difficult and people-pleasing is easy. Boundaries are as abstract as multivariable calculus. When

When People are Big and a Greater Power is Small 

Emotional and Spiritual Walls keep the Ego locked in place until a crisis calls for attention.   The goddess Athena was

Unconscious Man and Woman – Emotional Walls

Transformation does not happen on an intellectual level.  Transformation does not happen on an emotional level.  Transformation also does not

Transformation Requires Felt Perspective

Loyalty begins early, contributing to the shadow…hiding behind the curtain. We carry this loyalty all the time (some call it

Unconscious Loyalty

Relational love for some can be exhilarating, for others a steady comfort and yet for others a dangerous threat depending on

We fall for Patterns, Not People